The ups and downs of romantic relationships among college students

Amber and Brett enjoy each other's company

There is much more to college life than academics. The average student is usually juggling school, a social life, a job, and possibly a romantic relationship on a daily basis. Many students at the University of Denver are experiencing the struggles and also perks that all of the different aspects of college life are throwing their way.

It can be very difficult to move away from the familiarity of your hometown, to a place where everyone is seen as a stranger. Some students have a tendency to fall quickly into relationships the second they enter college; and it can be very easy to get caught up in lust rather than love.

One particular romantic relationship, which bloomed on the campus of the University of Denver, is between 21-year-old Amber and her boyfriend Brett. They met in their very first class of their freshman year and have been together ever since. They are now juniors and their relationship is going strong. So, what’s the secret?

Amber found that, “having someone who understands me and someone that I can rely on has made this year far easier”.

Truly getting to know your significant other can help keep the relationship strong and healthy. One important factor that helped this couple further their relationship was meeting each other’s families.

“I not only met his parents but also a lot of his extended family,” Amber said. “It showed me a lot that I did not know about him, how he grew up, what his family life was like, how he interacted with his family and how they interacted with one another”.

However, not all relationships are this easy; take Breanna and Tyler for example. Breanna did not start dating her current boyfriend until her second year of college, and she is still somewhat hesitant.

“At first, I was completely against them, I was never the relationship type. But then it just happened.” Breanna says about meeting Tyler.

Breanna and Tyler often spend time with each other's families

For some students they don’t think they need a relationship to be happy during college, until they meet someone they truly click with out of the blue. Often times when you least expect it, the best relationship occurs.

College is also one of the greatest times to experiment with the types of personalities that work well with your own. And many students find that dating someone in college is a great way to learn about your self and how to grow as a person.

Britney, a student at the University of Wyoming, talks about the positive affects her relationship has had on her life. She has been dating her boyfriend for four years now and they have recently moved in together.

“He has pushed me to perform the best I possibly can and support me when I need help,” Britney said. “My relationship has made my life so enriching and it has affected all my other friendships by using the skills I have attained on creating healthy friendships and relationships through mutual understanding and compromise.”

If you are with the right person they can be a very valuable asset to the success of your college career.

Students in college all over the United States have found that being involved in a romantic relationship has many positive aspects such as providing a distraction from using drugs and alcohol.

A study conducted by a research scientist at the University of Washington found that the typical student who was not in a relationship was 40 percent more likely to use marijuana or alcohol than a person who was dating someone.

Breanna said her boyfriend Tyler is one of the main reasons why she doesn’t go out as much as she used to freshman year.

“I definitely chose to stay in and hang out with him on occasion,” she said. “It’s refreshing to know there is someone I can hang out with if all my friends decide to go out.”

College can be the perfect opportunity for many to experiment and explore their youth. Often times relationships at such a young age can be challenging and stressful, yet well worth it.

“Overall relationships are a roller coaster,” Britney said. “They have the highest highs and the lowest of lows. Maintaining a relationship while learning more about yourself and your studies is a delicate balance. My relationship in college has influenced the rest of my life, such as learning how to love, how to thrive as a collective unit and as well as expressing yourself as an individual. My relationship makes me who I am today and who I will be tomorrow.”


2 Responses to The ups and downs of romantic relationships among college students

  • Gigi Sukin
    Gigi Sukin says:

    I really like this article because it completely applies to daily college life, regardless of an individual’s specific experiences. We see splashes of relations before our very eyes multiple times per day. Many college relationships, as one of your sources said can be roller-coasters or experimental, but often provide blueprints for specific criteria people determine for future relationships. Something that this article brings to mind is how courting and commitment have changed since our parents’ generation and before?

  • Rhianna Dow
    Rhianna Dow says:

    I agree with Breanna’s opinion because I love that I have someone to stay home with when I just want to watch a movie. I definitely identified with this article because I met my boyfriend the first day of college and we transferred from California to Colorado together. He pushed me to work harder academically and take care of myself a lot more than most of my friends. So I think that relationships have a positive impact on college life.

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