College relationships less important, especially among female students


Ulga McCollom, 20, with a guy friend.

Couples on college campuses used to be commonplace. But things have changed and fewer students are in long-term relationships.

Some say this shift has occurred because college relationships are becoming less meaningful and less desirable to students. A hookup culture is prevailing on a majority of college campuses.

According to a study done by St. Olaf University, about 75 percent of students have engaged in a hookup with someone they had known less than 24 hours.

Students can identify with this.

Emily T., 20, a finance and international relations major at Tulane University.

Hooking up is big here, I feel like it’s part of college culture,” said Emily. “I’ve hooked up with 8 guys in the last year. I don’t really do relationships. I see myself more prepared for life when I graduate, hopefully with an awesome job. But definitely not married. Relationships just aren’t important to me right now, maybe by the time I’m 30 they’ll be more meaningful to me.”

According to a Current Population Report done in 2009 by the United States Census Bureau, “one of the most noticeable changes in marital patterns has been the increase in the age at first marriage from 1986 to 2009.The average age of marriage among women in 2012 is 26 years old, 28 among men.

In 1970, only 6% of women 30 to 34 had never been married; the figure was 23% in 2003. It used to be that female students went to college to find someone to marry. Female college students are becoming more focused on a career after college, instead of marriage.

Ulga McCollom., 20, is a sophomore at Loyola University majoring in psychology and Latin American studies.

Realistically, I don’t see myself getting married until I’m at least 28 or so,” said McCollom. “I plan on getting my masters after college and then joining the Peace Corps. I used to want a relationship in college because I felt like that’s what girls are supposed to do–date someone for a few years in college and then get married after. I have changed my mind though. Now I really don’t want a boyfriend until I graduate.”

Other female students have similarly lofty goals after college.

Semra Fetahovic, a sophomore at Truman University majoring in international business and marketing. Marriage is the least of her priorities while in college.

After college, I’d either like to go on to grad school, or land a nice job with a private company or corporate, either in the states or abroad,” said Fetahovic. “Relationships are not important right now. I do want a relationship, and marriage and everything that it entails, but I’m in no rush, and I feel as though I have a lot going for me, and I would rather put it off. I feel like this trend will continue because a career is far more important that a husband.”

McCollom feels similarly.

“I work a lot and have a lot to do for school that I need to focus on. When I have a boy I find myself putting less of an emphasis on school and I really need to do well in school in order to have the career/life I want,” said McCollom. “I think that people need to realize that a career is crucial for success. Marriage can come later, that’s just how things are going to be.”


One Response to College relationships less important, especially among female students

  • Dian Sun
    Dian Sun says:

    You wrote a very nice article about the college relationships story,Nice job!!! However, I disagree with the students’ opinions. To have a higher goal and be prepared for life after college is definitely a nice thing, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t have a nice and meaningful relationship at the same time.

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