DU students battle distance

Distance never separates two hearts that really care, for our memories span the miles and in seconds we are there. But whenever I start feeling sad, because I miss you, I remind myself how lucky I am to have someone so special to miss– Unknown

Marian, a DU freshman, skypes with her long distance boyfriend, Brad.

College, in risk of sounding cliche, is a time for many to learn and grow. Many students are taken from the comfort and familiarity of the home they’ve known for 18 years and thrown into a new environment, living with a complete stranger, and surrounded by people they have never met. But, for some students there was the reassurance of having a significant other just a phone call or a text message away. According to USA Today at least half of college students are in a long distance relationship and at least 75% will be involved in one at some point.

Many students come into their freshman year still dating their high school sweethearts, others are elementary crushes just recently acted on, and some are new found romances.

One of the new found romances is  Carly and Nico, both from Pueblo, Colorado. Carly, a freshman at the University of Denver met Nico, who is a senior at Colorado State University- Pueblo, the summer of 2011 at popular event on the Pueblo Riverwalk, she was a passenger on a boat ride that her friend was piloting, Nico was too scared to talk to her at first so his co-worker that he thought Carly was cute, and an un-suspecting Carly found this out over a loud speaker system on the boat. After her boat ride Carly approached Nico and 11 days later they started dating.

“I love how we met,” Nico said. “Carly will always be the pretty girl on a boat I was too scared to talk to.”

While the couple is only 108 miles from each other they still face some of the problems long distance couples face, such as not being able to be in presence of each other at any given time. How do they cope? Like many couples in long distance relationships the pair uses any form of communication possible to keep in touch.

Carly, a DU freshman, and her long distance boyfriend, Nico, consider themselves lucky to be able to see each other almost every weekend.

“I’d say on average we send about 100 texts per day,” Carly said. “On average we call each other 15 times a day, and try to skype at least once a day.”

Modern technology, such as skype, has made it easier for long-distance couples to keep in touch, but also has posed the difficulty of when to hang up. A DU freshman, Marian, says that she only skypes with her high school sweetheart, Brad, who is at school in Peoria, Illinois, once in a while because their conversations end up being two to two and a half hours.

“When we made the decision to stay together [in college], we promised that we would not ruin the opportunity for new friendships in college by being attached to a phone or a computer,” Marian said. ” It is very important to us both that we experience new things and enjoy college.”

Marian and Brad are one of the couples who are too far apart to see each other on weekends. While they find this difficult on their relationship, they have found ways to work through it.

“Being light-hearted and goofy with each other definitely helps [our relationship],” Marian said. ” The most important thing is that we try not to dwell on the fact that we’re far apart.”

For older couples at DU the distance becomes a larger problem when juniors leave to study abroad for four months. For one DU student, Sarah, she will be 8,000 miles away in Kenya for four months in the fall, putting stress on her relationship with, Tyler, a sophomore at Metropolitan State University, Auraria campus. Despite the long distance the couple is confident that they will work through it.

“[Kenya] wil be a really great test for our relationship,” Sarah said. “Sure we will worry about each other and miss each other like crazy, but we will make it work.”

Study abroad programs are the ultimate test for long distance relationships. Couples know that if they can make it through four months of being in another country, thousands of miles away from each other, then they can survive anything.

Despite all the downsides that come with long distance relationships, couples manage to find upsides to the distance.

“I think that this slight distance from each other, makes it better when we see each other again,” Carly said. “It is as though our bond is strengthened through the physical absence.”

The girls especially have found an upside to not seeing their boyfriends every day.

“The greatest part is that I only have to shave my legs once a week,” Sarah said.

Battling long distance is not easy on relationships, not all couples can do it, there are tears, fight, laughter, and hugs. Distance puts relationships to the ultimate test, where only the strongest emerge, and in the end it’s all worth it for many.

“Long distance relationships require trust, confidence, unconditional love, immeasurable amounts of strength, and an insatiable hunger to want it to work,” Marian said. “I cannot even begin to tell you how scared I am every day, but for Brad, it’s worth it. I am completely confident in our relationship and I know that he is the one. “

One Response to DU students battle distance

  • Rebecca Blaettner
    Rebecca Blaettner says:

    I think you did a really good job in introducing your topic in the first paragraph before you jump into more detail with the different stories of your interview partners. I like the way you built the story up, starting with the example of the “shortest” distance to the “longest”. The links you included are well chosen and helpful, all of the quotes make the story very lively and relatable. I especially like the pull-out quote at the top, a good entry point into the story and that you also end your story with a quote.
    I would have liked to see a photo of the girl who goes to Kenya. Keeping SEO in mind, it would have been advantageous to include words like “love” or “relationship” in the headline.

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